The Art Of Something Called LOVE

I was reading an ENTRY at Flamingoliya’s blog, it was a very direct question that I thought of its content more than what the whole exercise represented.. but after reading some comment on her entry, I realized that some of the points should be taken in consideration here.. & thought what the hell, instead of writing a long @$$ comment on her blog, I’ll put it here as a Blog entry.. so embrace your selves.. it’s some how controversial.. I am a man, yes.. and I wonder, why men ( and I say it in total general way, no specific group of men, or from one culture in specific) always want to be a woman’s first love? Most ( and I say most not all) men love the idea that they are the first one in a woman’s life, and some men would actually end the relationship if they knew they weren’t the first. More over, many men want to marry virgins, that means, they want to be the first ones to enter their sexual lives and the last. Please bare with me, not to associate any cultural or religious methodology in here, just have a general wondering as I usually do about everything. Men are possessive of women, and want to be the only (first and last) person in their lives, on the contrary, women, don’t mind that a man had a relationship in the past with other women, they do want the man with experience, hell, they might also want a man with experience in the art of making love.. Personally, I don’t think of wanting to be the woman first love and only, first of all it is impossible, (unless you’re middle high school sweethearts, because if you are not, then it’s too late, girls tend to develop crushes at that age), and then, it is a damn great feeling when you sweep a woman off her feet, and make her forget everyone else in her past, and love you more than she ever loved anyone before you. Make you as the new measurement for her relationships as for her old love, it’s not easy, but that’s the best part, is the trying to do it.. Not taking the easy way of saying you have no idea what's out there, and all are like me.. so settle please.. In addition to all of that, why the selfishness in wanting to be the first one in a woman’s life? Is it perhaps that men are self conscious that they can’t be able to make a woman as happy as she used to feel with someone else before them ? same thing with sex again.. LOL, most men want virgins because they are so afraid that the woman will think he is lousy in bed, but if she didn’t have anyone to compare him to, then he’s a sex god… hahahahaha.. I pity these guys.. the challenge is to make a woman say you’re the best guy I have ever had. not you’re the only guy I have ever slept with. Heck, I am comparing her to my past, and try to see if she is good or not, how come she can't do that ?? The only problem, that many women give in to all of this selfishness, and think they are doing something wrong if they experience the feeling of love before the existing man in their lives today, and some ladies will go to the limit of lying, so they won’t loose the man, by saying you’re my first.. . but I know how men can be selfish most of the time.. I really do.. Thanks Flamin for the inspiration, I really needed it.. my mind is stuck a little bit..