Something you see everyday, whether it’s a friend that is going through it, or your self..
Months pass by.. one after the other.. she’s feeling better by the hour.. but things aren’t great all the time.. she woke up finding this SMS (short Message) from him.. what does he want? I thought it was over? He said it to me so many times that day.. a very short message saying to her that she passed through his thoughts, and can’t believe that she didn’t wish him a happy birthday.. She can’t believe that she forgot his birthday.. she’s been with him for 5 years, and today she didn’t realize that it’s his birthday.. Did that mean she is over him at last ?? she never thought a day like that would come.. she didn’t want to be rude, she sent back a cold “happy birthday” message.. few seconds later and to her surprise he calls.. not knowing what to do, she was cornered to pick it up, after all she just sent him the message.. and there he goes again, playing the old tricks of swaying her.. convincing her that she can’t live without him, that he made the biggest mistake of his life.. But this time there is something that is making her see him clearly.. his mind games and his words are not working anymore.. she can see pass through them.. while he is still talking, she’s thinking how could I ever fallen for him and his stupid ways to make me surrender my heart to him?? was I blind?? And if was blind, how come I can see now?? What happened in my life that made me free of his controls? She is silent, thinking of the past 5 years of her life, and how all of what he is saying used to make her cry. She stops his babbling and tells him to just try to understand, she’s in a different place.. she smiled when she said that, because she just realized it her self.. There was a tear on her cheek, but it was the tear of closure.. she is over him.. and she got to say it to him.. “I am over you”..
And life goes on…
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post a commentOh My God!!! Oh My God!! OH MY GOD!! no dude! seriously! Oh My God!!
Spon, aahhh.. is that good or bad "Oh my god" ?? :/
Good for her.
that was lovely sir!...and good for her! Life does go on....
Shoppy, yes it is..
Miss Cos, thank you..
La vie continue
Ouch! you hit a chord...i wish i could feel that way now..i wish i could say that i'm really over him..
الله...من زمان ما كتبت شي شذي
i miss your short stories
Sarah, yes it does..
K-G, I know it's hard.. but like the woman in the story, it probably would hit you unexpectedly, you will realize it on your own.. good luck..
Nanoa, I know sweet heart, but I swear I don't have time to sit and be creative and get inspired.. I hope things would slow down just a bit in my life so I can think straight and start creative writing again..
I feel like you spoke my mind, ah what a wonderful feeling to be over someone, to feel that you have the full control over yourself and your emotions, to feel powerful and strong and not weak at his presence, as much as love exhilarates your whole being, it hurts and humiliates in some cases and you’re better off without it.
Welcome back Don, I really missed your creative entries.
AyyA, it's funny you bring that up, The problem that I want to exploit in here, is that many ladies would confuse the feeling of love and trust with giving that person the complete control over self.. some guys would take that advantage to take control of the woman (remember “sleeping with the enemy” ??) CLICK HERE.. telling her how to style the hair, or what to wear, and how to live her life.. and she is thinking he is doing it because he likes me to look a certain way, or I am doing it for him because he likes it and I love him and he loves me.. but there is a thin line between suggesting something that the guy would like on his woman, and giving hidden orders to her to run her life (wearing something) a certain way.. at the time she might not see how much grip he has over every little details of her life.. because it’s all sugar coated with love.. I have seen it in front of me.. it’s no joke.. and you can’t tell her what’s wrong, because at that time he is her god, and can’t see the warning signs that we see from outside..
The Don, I know exactly what you're talking about, I know some girl I swear I would know every time that she's with a different guy because of her different looks and behaviour. She like it this way! She wants a man to control her life, herself, EVERYTHING! which is really stupid! she has no caracter no personality no hopes but to please her man (her god). She enjoys being a slave and I'm sure most men are happy with their own "slaves"
how can you be with someone who isn't living as an individual and have her/his own personality and thoughts and believes and on top of all VALUES which I'm sure she has none.
I feel sorry for her
Don
Interesting your comment to Ruby. Most women I know acquiesce to the needs and whims of their men, in an attempt to please them. I wonder if men also make changes for their women? Or if they feel obliged to?
it's like WOW Oh My God!
remains on the good part, nicely The Don, you managed to impress me this time =P
Sarah, dear lord!! sorry bs hathy disgrace to womanhood! are there men who actually like being with something like that? that would be one dull relationship!! mako opinions mako fights mako arguments bs kella Yes Sir!! I can run over her with my bulldozer!!!
That was fantastic! Wait Chino is that you?!! No seriously that was great as if it were about me and my ex down to the number of years we were together. and I can tell you it's the greatest thing in the world to break someone's hold on you. Life does go on and one is reborn.
:) donnny boy you my dear are a star... just want you to know that. a while back, i mentioned your blog to a couple of friends who have mentioned it to their friends... and they read silently... i didnt think she even kept reading... i thought it was a one time thing, bas apparantly shes hooked like me lolol im going to start a fan club for you... bas the pictures you autograph have to either be of your smile, or your legs :P
Sarah, it is more complicated than the clear cut picture you are discribing.. she doesn’t know that what she is doing is because of total control over her life, he would convince her that this is love.. and that’s how things are and should be, especially if she was young and had no experiences in life in that area.. she wouldn’t know better believe me.. and sorry to say this, but many guys, and not only in Kuwait love to be in that situation… to have total control of the woman.. part of it is jealousy and the fear of loosing her, so it gets worse and worse.. I had a best friend for 5 years to dropped me like nothing when her fiancé told her not to ever talk to me or see me.. he was jealous because she does not shut her moth talking about me with him.. rookie mistake from her at that time I guess she was young and in the first serious relationship.. but guys tend to want to have that.. and many would fall for it not realizing it was mind control.. these girl think it is how love is..
I hope your friend would wake up one day and see things straight..
Jewaira, I don’t believe that people should change for one another, that change won’t last for a long time before going back to the normal self.. but don’t get me wrong, I don’t say that couple shouldn’t compromise to one another, but if someone getting in a relationship hoping that person would change, they are in for a big surprise..
Spon.. ok.. good.. phewwwww :)
Mia.. I guess if I was Chino I would be living in New York City huh ?? which not bad at all to be Chino right now.. hehehe.. but unfortunately I am in the sand box, and seen this happening to many people, some of them were dear to me, and I lost them only to come back to me after they break up and realize that I was telling them something to help them.. but at that time.. they hated me for it.. :(
E3youn.. hahahahaha.. fan club ?? you always manage to crack me up.. lol
By the way, please tell your silent friends not to be shy.. I don’t bite.. well. unless I was asked.. heheheh :P
aaaaaaaaah i learn more about you every day... ill tell them... yes fan club... smile or legs... take your pick and let me know. ill be your road manager as well ;) lol off to bed i go...
Most of Kuwaiti guys act like this, o el poor girls believe everything :( el poor girls are few ;P
Since I am scorpion I know that it is really wonderful to be over some1 :) it makes me feel good and strong..
I will survive :P
I know what you're talking about, but this girl, who isn't my friend by the way, she doesn't need to be in love to obey and it isn't lack of experience hahaha trust me. In some cases girls do that 'cause they are desperate to get married
I’m working on an intervention right now. I recently met a girl who’s going through that type of controlling relationship. Yesterday as she and I were walking out of school he made a remark to us “I want to talk to the both of you.” It wasn’t so much what he said but HOW he said it. I looked up at him and said, “Ummm I don’t think so b/c unless your name is on my birth certificate that’s not the proper tone to take when addressing me.” He looked down at me and said, “You know for a little chick (I’m 4ft 11) you sure have a lot of attitude. I could never be with a girl like you.” I guess it was meant as an insult but I just looked at him and laughed and said, “Baby you don’t understand you can never get a girl like me in the first place.” He backed down and I grabbed my friend and walked away and told her you need to dump this guy. She looked at me as if she had never thought of this option. I pointed out to her that she deserved better than this idiot who I suspect hits her as well. Last night he tried to bully her into moving in with him, either move in or we break up. She looked at me and asked Mia can you help take my stuff out of his apartment? He was dumbfounded! I was so proud of her! Never mind the fact that they made up and he backed down on his ultimatum. I think I’m making headway with her. I hope she finally opens her eyes one day and kicks him to the curb.
By the way New York is kind of nice today, it’s romance weather. There’s a tropical depression swinging by. Makes the city look all peaceful and what not.
You could've wrote this about me the last time I talked to my ex Husband on the phone WAAAAY back in, well nevermind how long ago that was.LOL It was such a terrifing yet completely freeing moment, I'll ever forget that feeling.
HMMM word verifcation was gropl? LOL
shit don, this is weird walla, so weird man ......
ummmm.....
dude so weird i read this just now walla lol like readin my story :(
za3ilti walla
I´ll be a memer of that fan club!!hahaha....
I love the description...it made me remember lots of things...
You understand women very well...do you know that??
kisses.
very emotional.. Good story...
Closure is very important i feel. It makes life go on...
and Good for her..
oo ba3dain... smile or legs??
Fantastic, Don! I think closure is essential. We all need to get on with our lives after a break-up (and I mean, any kind of break-up)
I have a friend who calls that "closing circles"... I guess one can't have more than one open circle at the same time.
A great story!
Cheers!
I met girls like that, very dull relationships, you could tell they're like that from the first phone call, lack of self respect I'd tell ya
Sooma, that first word made all the difference.. “MOST” hehehehe
Sarah, I totally understand what you are saying.. the desperation makes people think crazy..
Mia, you keep on working on that, but be careful not to be very frank with your friend, because sometimes it would backfire at you instead.. :(
Chris, we missed you in here.. I hope things are ok..
Hibba, the most important thing is that you woke up and smelled the coffee.. and hopefully won’t fall for another guy like that.. there are so many of them..
Condesa.. lol for being a member..
And believe me, as perceptive as I am, I don’t think I understand women, but the key is that I try to and open to learn more.. but that doesn’t stop women from throwing me off and surprising me with behaving a way totally not expected.. hehehehe.. I love it..
B.F., I am trying so hard to remember whether it is your first time in here or not.. but anyway, welcome to my blog..
E3youn, how about me signing the picture I have in the middle of the blog.. hehehe..
Ludwig, I love how you put it as closing a circle.. it’s very interesting.. ;)
Badoor, Welcome to the blog.. I don’t know if it’s lack of respect, or Desperation as Sarah puts it, or mind as well say both.. hmm..
no.
you have two choices :P
Smile, legs. pick one
still aint smelled the coffee and i still love my duda :)lol . . .
I think
E3youn, :)
Hibba, Time is the best teacher you'll ever learn from.. give time a chance, and you will know what I mean later on in life.. :)